personal growth

New Year Pressure?

New Year Pressure?

Feeling the pressure of a new year? Maybe the disappointment of another year gone by, and somewhere along the way you lost sight of all those shiny 2018 goals? NEW YEAR NEW YOU?!

Yeah. I’ve been reading people’s posts about goals and resolutions and “ARE YOU READY”s - I even posted about it myself once , and I stand by that advice and those strategies, but something in me has shifted and right now all of that JUST MAKES ME FEEL STRESS AND PRESSURE. So here is what I propose instead, and what I came into myself in the homestretch of 2018:

HOW DO YOU WANT TO FEEL?

Resisting Quiet: Why Meditation Can Be Scary

Resisting Quiet: Why Meditation Can Be Scary

DO YOU EVER FIND YOURSELF RESISTING QUIET? FINDING ALL THE WAYS TO FILL THE SPACE?

I MEDITATE. DAILY. AND YET, I STILL SOMETIMES RESIST THE OPEN, THE QUIET, THE UNSTRUCTURED. ESPECIALLY WHEN THERE'S SOMETHING THERE THAT NEEDS MY ATTENTION. BECAUSE THAT'S WHEN IT'S SCARY

3 Steps To Transform Rejection

3 Steps To Transform Rejection

Because rejection is just. so. fun. 

I feel like this has been the year of rejection. Small rejections all the way to soul-crushing rejections. And not coincidentally, also one of the most powerful years of my life.  Not always the most fun (although there has been a lot of fun), and definitely not the easiest, but in a whole caterpillar into butterfly, beautiful growing pains way kind of best. 

So. Maybe you're working hard to make some changes in your life, and things just aren't going your way. Maybe you were dealt a really rough blow, or a series of small rejections. Please don't give up! Try this. (From someone who knows.) 

Standards vs Perfectionism

Standards vs Perfectionism

Standards are about meeting your best effort, at your growing edge, where you are NOW. As you grow, so do your standards. Perfectionism is about control. Control has the appearance of, well, control, but it's really about fear.