Letting go of who and what doesn't serve you makes space in your life for what does.
Ok... but how the heck do I do that?! Here's a starting place:
know clearly who you are.
I don't mean the stuff we normally think of as defining ourselves - job, friends, family, hobbies, fashion - I mean who you are at your core. When all of that stuff is stripped away, who are you? (Although knowing who you are can actually help you figure out a lot of that external stuff too.)
When you know who you are, it becomes easy to recognize who and what supports and uplifts you, and the things that don't. The more you get to know yourself, the harder it becomes to accept and allow things in your life that don't serve you.
For me, that most often shows up as a feeling in my gut and in my heart. Call it intuition. Call it your inner wisdom. Call it whatever you want. Mine was really hard to find for a while, and now it's impossible to ignore.
Ok, so how do I do this? ...The best way I've found is
to get still and quiet.
(Yes, I'm talking about meditation. Again.) It doesn't happen immediately, and it takes some practice, but boy is it worth it. I'm developing an inner confidence that comes from knowing who I am, and trusting myself.
If you're new to meditation, or want some tools to go farther, check out some free meditations on my friend's Grounded Mind program. It has been a meditation game-changer for me!
As a reformed (reforming) people pleaser, operating from a place of my own truth is a game changer. Yeah, I still want people to like me, but I'm becoming ok with people that don't, with just accepting that I don't have to be all things to all people, and that some people and situations are not meant for me. WHAT A RELIEF. Seriously.
The people/relationships/situations/jobs/jeans, etc. that aren't meant for me can be on their merry way. I have more time and energy for the people and things that matter.
here's where it gets good and why the work is worth it:
The paradox is that not trying so hard makes you more magnetic to the people and things that you want in your life.
I'm meeting some really amazing people. I'm getting clear about next steps for GROW. I'm finding opportunities and situations and travel unexpectedly popping up.
That doesn't mean I don't get bummed when something I think I want doesn't turn out the way I wanted, but I can accept and move on pretty quickly, and get really excited to see what's around the corner.
So give it a try. Be still. Meditate. Find your truth. You might have to dust off some cobwebs and wade through some sh*t to get there, but trust me, it's worth it.
To sum it up:
As always, talk to me in the comments! And get in touch below or @growhappygrowhealthy.com if you want some support on how to start this incredible journey of release and discovery.
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